Wife Withdraws From Life She's Built Over Decades.

 

Wife Withdraws From Life She's Built Over Decades.

10여년 동안 만들어온 삶을 철수하는 아내.

 

After 28 years, my wife left me "to find herself." 

28년후에 나의 아내는 그녀 자신을 찾기위해 나를 떠났다.

 

She says she doesn't want a divorce;

그녀는 이혼을 원하지 않는다고 말하였다.

 

she just needs time and space to work on herself, but she also wants to work on our marriage.

She doesn't want to talk, text or contact me.

그녀는 그녀를 돌볼수 잇는 시간과 공간이 필요하다고 말하였다.

하지만 그녀는 우리의 결혼생활도 돌보고 싶다고 한다.

그녀는 대화, 문자, 연락도 원하지 않는다.

 

My question is, how are we supposed to work on our marriage with no contact?  

*be supposed to ~ should 랑 비슷한 말 

나의 질문은 우리가 결혼생활을 돌보는데 연락없이 어떻게 기대할 수 있는가?

 

What am I supposed to do? I love her, but she's avoiding me and everyone else, including her friends and family. 

내가 어떻게 해야해? 나는 그녀를 사랑하고, 하지만 그녀는 나와 다른 모두들을 피하고 있다. 그녀의 친구와 가족을 포함해서

All she wants to do is work and be alone in her apartment. -- LONELY IN THE EAST

그녀가 하고 싶은 전부는 일을하고 그녀의 아파트에서 혼자 있기를 바래.  

 

DEAR LONELY: When you asked how your wife plans to work on your marriage if you aren't seeing each other or communicating (or utilizing marriage counseling), you asked a pertinent question. *plans to ~ 계획하다

외로운 사람에게 :  너가 아내는 서로를 보지도 소통하지도 않으면서 결혼생활을 어떻게 돌볼 계획인지 물어보았을때 (결혼상담도 사용하지 않고) 너는 적절한 질문을 한거야

 

She cannot have it both ways, nor does she seem open to repairing what drove her to leave your marriage.

그녀는 둘다 가질 수 없어 그녀는 결혼생활을 떠나게 한 것을 고칠려는것에 열려있지 않아. 

 

cannot have it both ways.  둘다 가질수 없다. open to ~ 열려있다. (동사) 이용해서 쓸때는 Ing / drove ~ (마음을) 몰고가다

 

Ask if she is interested in counseling. 

그녀가 카운셀링을 관심을 가지고 있는지 물어바

Ask if  ~ 한지 물어바

 

if she isn't, please get a referral to a therapist for emotional support for yourself right now. 

만약에 그녀가 그렇지 않다면 너의 정신적인 지지를 위한 상담사 레퍼런스를 받아라.

 

If you do, you will more quickly be able to figure out what your next steps should be.

만약에 너가 그렇게 한다면 너는 좀 더 빠르게 알아차릴수 있어 너의 다음에 뭘 해야하는지.

 

*단어정리

 

withdraws 물러나다 , 철수하다 ,인출하다

- Groverment troops were forced to withdraw. 정부군은 어쩔 수 없이 철수 해야 했다. *force to 하도록 강요받다

- I'd like to withdraw $20 please. 나는 20 달러를 인출하고 싶어요

 

divorce 이혼하다. ~을 ~와 분리하다

 

referral (사람을 전문적으로 도움받을 곳으로) 보내다.

- illnesses requiring referral to hospitals.

병원진료를 필요로 하는 질병들

 

 

*표현정리

 

work on ~ 노력을 열심히하다.

supposed to  (규칙 관습적으로) ~ 하기로 되어있다.~ 할 의무가 있다.

cannot have it both ways, nor 둘다 가질 수 없다.

open to ~열려있다.

drove 몰고가다

Ask if ~ 한지 물어봐

 

 

I am working on my english.

I am working on developing a good habit

she works on her marriage.

 

what am i supposed to do ?

I 'm supposed to finsh my work.

I'm not supposed to be nice to you.

 

 

I cannot have it both ways nor can i have both work and love.

he cannot have it both ways. He must decide whether he's going to retire or continue working.

you cannot have it both ways. You must choose between a high paying job or one that you truly love,,

we cannot have it both ways, nor can we expect the taam to succeed without clear direction.

you cannot have it both ways nor can you avoid the consequence of your decision.

 

 

I'm open to your idea

I'm open to your thoughts.

Are you open to my idea?

Are you open to what i have to say?

Are you open to getting to know me better?

 

Although ambitious, she did not drive her team too hard, understanding that too much pressure could lead to burnout.

In disussions about the new policy ,the manager did not drive his opinions on the staff, preferring instead to listen and gather feedback.

 

They needed a decision soon, but he did not drive the issue, opting to give his colleagues more time to consider their options.

 

 

Ask if she is sure about her decision.

Ask if she knows that.

Ask if she wants to hang out with us.